October 30 2014
Dreaming of weddings...
I remember fantasising about my wedding day when I was little. I used to have trouble sleeping and my mum would always say ‘think of something nice and you will fall asleep’. I would imagine my wedding and my future husband and that would lull me to sleep within minutes. When I got older I wasn’t sure that I wanted to get married, it just seemed like a formality. But when I met my future husband, all of that changed and now I run my own wedding advice blog!
Adam proposed to me in an Italian restaurant on the Thai island of Koh Samui. It was Christmas day and we were both missing our families back home in England. As you can imagine the proposal made my day, and lead to a beautiful December wedding two years later.
As a very petite bride I knew that there was no chance I would find a ready to wear dress that fitted me perfectly, so I had a fully bespoke dress designed and created by The Little Bridal Co. I loved the whole process from sketching initial ideas to the final fitting, it was a wonderful experience.
Of course I have to recommend my own wedding blog, Lace & Love Hearts, when it comes to planning a wedding! I’m not a big fan of wedding magazines as they tend to be very expensive and not as innovative and forward thinking as blogs. Pinterest is also an excellent tool if you are looking for inspiration.
I did my own makeup after a disappointing trial. I’ve been applying my own makeup for fifteen years, so no one knows how to do it better than I do! My hair was done by my local hairdresser who also had a salon at Wynyard Hall. She did an amazing job!
Dealing with stress and nerves...
I planned our wedding almost exclusively on my own, so I found it quite challenging on occasion. I put my heart and soul into our big day and I have to say that it was 100% worth every single sleepless night and moment of doubt.
I was surprisingly relaxed on the morning of the wedding and spent most of my time pampering while my page boys and flower girls played around me in the bridal suite. The nerves hit me like a brick wall as I stood outside the ceremony room arm in arm with my dad, but disappeared as soon as I saw Adam waiting for me at the other end of the aisle.
To eat and drink...
We had a drinks reception immediately following the ceremony which included delicious canapés, followed by a three course for meal for our wedding breakfast, and buffet-style refreshments in the evening. Oh, and we also had delicious wedding cake! Our guests were very well fed!
My four gorgeous little nieces Skye, Beth, Phoebe and Lily were my flower girls and my best friend Rayya was my very hard working and attentive maid of honour.
We had four speeches following our wedding breakfast. My dad went first with a lovely heartfelt speech which was very complementary, and absolutely hysterical! Adam’s dad went next and spent almost all of the speech waving my running order around and making our guests giggle by at my level of organisation! Adam followed and scored some major brownie points with our family for being so sweet to me, and his best man and eldest brother Michael was last. Michael’s speech was as epic as expected and he managed to make me cry the first happy tears of the day.
As Christmas followed on the heels of our wedding we decided to delay our honeymoon until the beginning of 2014. We spent two fantastic months travelling around Australia, swimming in the sea, sunbathing on the beach, meetings fellow travelers and taking in the sights and sounds of this amazing country.
Life after the wedding...
Being married is wonderful and I still enjoy being referred to as ‘Mrs Clarey’! In terms of our relationship I don’t think we have changed much. We were together for almost eight years before we got married, so we were already living together and had created a life for ourselves. I guess I do feel a little more grown up now and the ‘when are you going to have a baby?’ questions are more frequent these days!
Advice for brides to be…
1) Sit down with your groom, your parents and his parents (and anyone else who will be contributing financially to your wedding) and work out your budget. Then stick to it and don’t tease yourself! If you have £1000 to spend on a dress, don’t visit high end bridal boutiques filled with £10,000 dresses.
2) Try your best to involve your groom in the planning process, however if he doesn’t seem keen to get involved don’t force him. Discussing flowers, wedding stationery and bridesmaids dresses may not be his ‘thing’. Perhaps he would rather book the wedding day transportation, locate suits for himself and his groomsmen and organise something fun for them to do on the morning of the wedding?
3) Write your guest list and finalise it with your parents before searching for venues. You need to know your numbers so you can rule out inappropriate venues. You don’t want to end up having to slash your guest list in order to fit in a venue you’ve fallen in love with.
Thanks Lottie! XX
P.S. Check out Lottie's wedding blog, Lace & Love Hearts
October 07 2014
Why go to a big department store and buy a vintage-style headpiece – and risk someone else wearing exactly the same piece, when really it is quite straightforward to make a simple yet very effective and pretty headpiece yourself at home.
I am here to guide you through the whole process. If you have any questions, just get in touch with me on Twitter and ask me directly.
What you are going to need:
In addition you will need:
Step 1 – sourcing materials and planning
Some bits you will already have, and others you will need to go out and buy. As you collect items you should get a feel for the type of thing you are going to create. Obviously if you have your item of clothing that you are planning to wear already you will want to start with that as your inspiration, with regard to colours and materials you want to look for.
Source your base, clip, needle and thread, scissors glue, feathers and unpicker from craft shops or online – see links above.
For embellishment, have a look through your (and your mum’s / gran’s / best friend’s) jewelry boxes to find any lovely odd earrings, necklace pendants that you no longer wear, or old brooches. These all make great embellishments.
Get your vintage fabrics from old pieces of clothes, either from your wardrobe or try vintage shops and flea markets. It takes a while to source the right bits, but if you frequent such places, you could learn to always keep an eye out. Of course you could get scraps from fabric shops too.
Lay out all your bits and bobs in front of you, see picture, below. At the start, it’s good idea to have a loose plan for where you are heading with your headpiece. Here are a few suggestions, but feel free to do what you want; after all, it’s your unique piece.
Step 2 – make the base
Position your croc clip on the back of the sinamay base and sew securely as demonstrated (below) from back to front of the base. This is so all stitching will be hidden on the inside. Knot securely.
Step 3 – decorate
Now comes the fun part - decorating your design! Here are a few suggestions to inspire you.
You can bow or gather your Russian veiling as shown. This is a really simple but really effective idea to add height to your headpiece.
To make a cute bow from your pre-cut fabrics, fold inwards, pinch in the middle and secure by sewing. Easy peasy!
If you have a feather, try curling it into circular shape as demonstrated in the picture below. Wrap with a piece of thread at the base and knot tightly to secure. Another interesting way to play with feathers is to layer them on top of each other to create texture.
Take your pre-made bow and play about with positioning it on your base. I find they always look best when arranged at an angle or at least off-centre.
Step 4 - embellish
Now we are going to embellish with buttons, jewels, gems, vintage earrings, bits of jewellery – all the really gorgeous bits for you magpies out there! The next few images show variations on how to use your embellishments. Use them to make the headpiece really personal to you!
If you have any old vintage earrings with the backs removed, you will need to sew through the holes on the back of these as shown.
Time for some finishing touches! When decorating your headpiece with tiny beads or sequins be really careful when using fabric glue. A good tip is to try using an ear bud to apply the glue.
Step 5 - wear!
Apply your favourite lipstick, style your hair and start wearing your fabulous, unique headpiece!
Don’t forget to post me a pic on my Facebook page, can’t wait to see what you’ve all created!
If you want to make your own headpiece but haven’t got the time to get all the bits and pieces together, then you may like to check out my “Made By You” home kits, which cater for all levels of sewers.
These kits are for everyone - for those of you who learnt your tips and tricks from your Nanas, to those who experience utter frustration when trying to thread a needle, we’ve all been there! Each pretty pot is individually made using an array of vintage fabrics in different colour ways and textures. Each home-kit also contains a selection of hand-picked gems that you can use to glam up your head piece. >> Order one now
Silver Sixpence in Her Shoe also offers bespoke handmade headpieces, made to order for brides and guests too – also why not have a look at my handmade collection? And don’t forget my vintage horseshoes and handmade garters too.
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